Personally going through a breakup is entertaining however you may feel like worst that time. It doesn’t matter whether you or your other half break the relationship but you definitely loose a close connection and you have to admit that. Let’s move ahead and let know more about personal areas of growth.
@). Learn from Your Past –
Most difficult but rewarding aspect is to know about yourself more. However don’t think it’s going to easy as its very easy to move from self discovery to self blame, So be careful. However it’s advisable to wait until your own feelings become less vulnerable and once you realized that you are more relaxed than you were before immediately after break up. Now next step is to start finding areas for personal growth.
#).Thought Record :
One of the best ways to find areas for personal growth is to keep a thought record. Buy a journal/book and record your emotions and thoughts only. Please don’t write any single extra word in it as it may divide your attention. Thought record will be helpful for you to record negative feeling and other those feelings that comes with that. For example: Some sample thoughts:
|Situation||Automatic Thought||Emotion||Alternative Thought|
|Walked past the store where my ex works||“I’ll never get over him”||Hopelessness||“I’m sad now, but I’ve been through bad situations before and got over it”|
|Found out that my ex-fiancée is engaged||“I guess I wasn’t good enough for her.”||Sad||“I did some things right and some things wrong, and so did she.”|